The title of this post is the mantra half of us could benefit from, I think.
When I was reading this, I was reminded of the time when my ex-partner, who’d left me and not the other way around, texted me a couple of years after the breakup, wistful about the relationship we used to have and struggling to find something similar, and I ended up opening his eyes to the fact that he didn’t miss me, he just missed the way he used to feel with me. The two feelings are often confused, and I still have to remind myself that I don’t want to go back to the person who left, I just want to meet someone else who would make me just as happy.
Sometimes we reach for the past because it’s the only thing we know. It’s hard to imagine the happiness that hasn’t crossed our path yet. We just have to keep going forward and believe more happiness is waiting for us somewhere ahead.
This is so beautifully said, thank you so much for sharing this, i especially love the line“we reach for the past because it's the only thing we know" It really is hard to imagine the kind of happiness we haven’t felt yet, but that reminder to keep believing in it is exactly the kind of hope we need to hold onto,just like you said. I’m really grateful for your perspective 🩷🩷
So true, love this part "half of the time, you’re not really missing them, you’re missing the idea of being chosen, the comfort and the illusion of certainty."
This is everything. I’m so glad the words made space for you, even just a little. And I’m even more glad you're okay today 🫂 Your comments made my day better💕
This hit close to home and it was beautiful💕 It was vulnerable and tender in a way that's hard for me to describe (the best way). I love this, because it is so very human, yet unlike human emotions, it is crystal clear what story you are trying to tell. Please keep writing forever💗💗
Ughh you have no idea how much i appreciate you're words, like literally. Thank you so much for explaining how you felt about it, this means a lot to me💕💕
when reading this it reminded me of a friend that I love so much but never love back and when I finally left him, I was missing him, but along the line I figured out he limited me from something from discovering myself. is just the memories
This is so real. Sometimes it’s not the person we miss, it’s the comfort and the memories. I’m proud of you for choosing yourself tho🩷it’s not easy to walk away from someone you care about, even when you know it’s the right thing.💕
I fear that every sentence describes my life perfectly right now. I am still in the process of moving on from my ex and I always get this sudden rush of heavy feeling in my chest. Sometimes sad, lonely and it can be empty. And other times, my heart aches with a painful longing for him.
However, I also don't think I would willingly go back to those days where after every call and meet-up there's anxiety and fear. I no longer want want to feel that I am not enough for him and at the same time that I am too much. I don't want to keep on begging to to be cared for. And I am tired of the battle in my heart..where one part wants to trust him so badly and the other screaming not to.
Although funny thing is is despite the irony of all this... still hope that one day we will meet halfway in life when we are both ready. More mature and healed. Then, maybe and just maybe we can try again. I dont know. Maybe I still want him back because I believed what we had was something real, And I believe he loved me at some point.maybe just burried in the mix of intentions and his own desires but stil know he loved me. I dont know T_T Maybe it's like this for now. Maybe soon will grow to be satisfied with my own company. And like my friends say, "things wil get better soon"
Thank you so much for sharing your story with me🩷It’s such a complicated place to be in,between holding on and learning to let go.But I do believe things get lighter with time and I hope you keep finding peace in your own company,even if it takes a little while.🫶🏻
I also like to think how unreliable our memories can be. We tend to paint a wayy better picture of things than that was really there. The past is in the past, that is all.
Accepting that both can be true has been incredibly freeing - there’s less of a desire for closure or being scared to close the chapter - instead understanding that you can love someone and still not be right for each other in the long run has released me from holding onto the fantasy that true romantic love must equal being together
This was beautifully written! 😍 And my best part? It's okay to miss the memories without holding onto the past. It's okay to miss the warmth without needing to feel it anymore. I didn't know I needed to hear/read about this so bad until I stumble across it. I'm missing someone so much right now, and It's just...... Sigh. I feel better reading this, thank you! ❤️
i feel this way the most not about my partners but about my old friends, when we used to share the same bed and giggle about things that happened in school all night. But I understand now that they were not right for me and I was not right for them.
Honestly, friendship breakups like yours are actually what inspired me to write this post.missing those moments but knowing they weren’t right for us is such a complicated feeling, and you put it perfectly. Thank you sm for reading and sharing these words with me!❤️
This is so real...even if it's been 1 year since we both contacted each other...yet I miss him but realizing the fact that he's no longer the person I use to feel with nd the fact that some moments made me leave him...
This post was exact thing I needed...this was a warm hug..I REALLY hope you keep writing more!!
I’d just started writing a poem on a “break up” I went through. I recently officially ended a seven year friendship. Not because the person was bad to me, actually quite the opposite. They were very good to me that I cried buckets that night, I mean obviously, that was my best friend. I miss them I can’t lie, and sometimes I just want to get back into their DMs, but I remember why I ended the relationship in the first place. It wasn’t toxic, just incomplete, to me. There were a lot of holes and I didn’t want to settle with those holes. Some might say I was selfish but I know we both deserve and need better and I wasn’t the one to fill in their holes as much as they weren’t the ones to fill in mine. I loved what we had, how we fought and didn’t speak for a year just to come back together again stronger, I miss what we had too. But it’s just not a relationship I want to go back to either. It’s crazy how I found this piece at this point in my life. Thank you so much for this, I loved reading it🫶🏾🫶🏾
I love how explained it. There’s a quiet kind of ache in letting go of something good that still wasn’t enough and you captured that perfectly.i had a similar experience, it was actually what shaped this piece, so it means a lot to me that it resonated with you. Thank you for your words🫶🏻🩷
The title of this post is the mantra half of us could benefit from, I think.
When I was reading this, I was reminded of the time when my ex-partner, who’d left me and not the other way around, texted me a couple of years after the breakup, wistful about the relationship we used to have and struggling to find something similar, and I ended up opening his eyes to the fact that he didn’t miss me, he just missed the way he used to feel with me. The two feelings are often confused, and I still have to remind myself that I don’t want to go back to the person who left, I just want to meet someone else who would make me just as happy.
Sometimes we reach for the past because it’s the only thing we know. It’s hard to imagine the happiness that hasn’t crossed our path yet. We just have to keep going forward and believe more happiness is waiting for us somewhere ahead.
This is so beautifully said, thank you so much for sharing this, i especially love the line“we reach for the past because it's the only thing we know" It really is hard to imagine the kind of happiness we haven’t felt yet, but that reminder to keep believing in it is exactly the kind of hope we need to hold onto,just like you said. I’m really grateful for your perspective 🩷🩷
"We just have to keep going forward and believe more happiness is waiting for us somewhere ahead."
Indeed!! Ty for sharing your past with us, means plenty and I assure you that happiness and the right ppl await ahead of you. ♡
Thank you soooo much for your words, they really mean a lot to me💞💞
Your words meant more to me, Jass. I should thank you. 💞💞
Thank you, Mirale! It’s the kind of hope we should all carry with us in a little pocket everywhere we go. 🤍
So true, love this part "half of the time, you’re not really missing them, you’re missing the idea of being chosen, the comfort and the illusion of certainty."
Thank you so much!🩷🩷
-Wait, how do I restack every word, every sentence, every line?😭
You just gave a vivid description of how it is to really miss someone and not want them back
How it is to still love them from a distance and still not want them in your life
Thank you for this. Thank you for explicitly and implicitly telling me it’s okay to miss them and not want them back
Today, I’m okay and everything is okay
This is everything. I’m so glad the words made space for you, even just a little. And I’m even more glad you're okay today 🫂 Your comments made my day better💕
I miss him so much that I wish to never see him again. thank you for this!
I’m really glad this reached you🥹🩷🩷
This hit close to home and it was beautiful💕 It was vulnerable and tender in a way that's hard for me to describe (the best way). I love this, because it is so very human, yet unlike human emotions, it is crystal clear what story you are trying to tell. Please keep writing forever💗💗
Ughh you have no idea how much i appreciate you're words, like literally. Thank you so much for explaining how you felt about it, this means a lot to me💕💕
you’re right
when reading this it reminded me of a friend that I love so much but never love back and when I finally left him, I was missing him, but along the line I figured out he limited me from something from discovering myself. is just the memories
This is so real. Sometimes it’s not the person we miss, it’s the comfort and the memories. I’m proud of you for choosing yourself tho🩷it’s not easy to walk away from someone you care about, even when you know it’s the right thing.💕
I fear that every sentence describes my life perfectly right now. I am still in the process of moving on from my ex and I always get this sudden rush of heavy feeling in my chest. Sometimes sad, lonely and it can be empty. And other times, my heart aches with a painful longing for him.
However, I also don't think I would willingly go back to those days where after every call and meet-up there's anxiety and fear. I no longer want want to feel that I am not enough for him and at the same time that I am too much. I don't want to keep on begging to to be cared for. And I am tired of the battle in my heart..where one part wants to trust him so badly and the other screaming not to.
Although funny thing is is despite the irony of all this... still hope that one day we will meet halfway in life when we are both ready. More mature and healed. Then, maybe and just maybe we can try again. I dont know. Maybe I still want him back because I believed what we had was something real, And I believe he loved me at some point.maybe just burried in the mix of intentions and his own desires but stil know he loved me. I dont know T_T Maybe it's like this for now. Maybe soon will grow to be satisfied with my own company. And like my friends say, "things wil get better soon"
Thank you so much for sharing your story with me🩷It’s such a complicated place to be in,between holding on and learning to let go.But I do believe things get lighter with time and I hope you keep finding peace in your own company,even if it takes a little while.🫶🏻
Thank you so much for this it means a lot <3
And I am tired of the battle in my heart..where one part wants to trust him so badly and the other screaming not to.
I feel this so much! But I feel the battle between my brain and heart. My heart wants to trust him but my brain is saying no.
I also like to think how unreliable our memories can be. We tend to paint a wayy better picture of things than that was really there. The past is in the past, that is all.
I love how you put that and i totally agree❤️ thank you for reading and sharing this.
Accepting that both can be true has been incredibly freeing - there’s less of a desire for closure or being scared to close the chapter - instead understanding that you can love someone and still not be right for each other in the long run has released me from holding onto the fantasy that true romantic love must equal being together
So beautifully written! It’s sweet reading something that helps put words to feelings I have a hard time articulating. Thank you for this! 😊
Thank you so much! You're words honestly mean a lot💕
This was beautifully written! 😍 And my best part? It's okay to miss the memories without holding onto the past. It's okay to miss the warmth without needing to feel it anymore. I didn't know I needed to hear/read about this so bad until I stumble across it. I'm missing someone so much right now, and It's just...... Sigh. I feel better reading this, thank you! ❤️
Thank you so much for your words!! They mean a lot, really.🩷🩷🩷
i feel this way the most not about my partners but about my old friends, when we used to share the same bed and giggle about things that happened in school all night. But I understand now that they were not right for me and I was not right for them.
Honestly, friendship breakups like yours are actually what inspired me to write this post.missing those moments but knowing they weren’t right for us is such a complicated feeling, and you put it perfectly. Thank you sm for reading and sharing these words with me!❤️
God, I needed this today. I shall remember it in the moments right before I fall asleep just when I have a hint of question about my decisions.
I'm really glad to hear this!❤️
This was such a good read! Reminded me of my past lover- my first and greatest love.
This is so real...even if it's been 1 year since we both contacted each other...yet I miss him but realizing the fact that he's no longer the person I use to feel with nd the fact that some moments made me leave him...
This post was exact thing I needed...this was a warm hug..I REALLY hope you keep writing more!!
Xoxo🌷✨️
You have no idea how much your words mean to me!!🫶🏻 Thank you so much🩷
I’d just started writing a poem on a “break up” I went through. I recently officially ended a seven year friendship. Not because the person was bad to me, actually quite the opposite. They were very good to me that I cried buckets that night, I mean obviously, that was my best friend. I miss them I can’t lie, and sometimes I just want to get back into their DMs, but I remember why I ended the relationship in the first place. It wasn’t toxic, just incomplete, to me. There were a lot of holes and I didn’t want to settle with those holes. Some might say I was selfish but I know we both deserve and need better and I wasn’t the one to fill in their holes as much as they weren’t the ones to fill in mine. I loved what we had, how we fought and didn’t speak for a year just to come back together again stronger, I miss what we had too. But it’s just not a relationship I want to go back to either. It’s crazy how I found this piece at this point in my life. Thank you so much for this, I loved reading it🫶🏾🫶🏾
I love how explained it. There’s a quiet kind of ache in letting go of something good that still wasn’t enough and you captured that perfectly.i had a similar experience, it was actually what shaped this piece, so it means a lot to me that it resonated with you. Thank you for your words🫶🏻🩷
You’re welcome🫶🏾🤗